I did a real parent thing the other day. My son was trying to clean up some small toy pieces from a table and I knew they would all fall on the floor and make a mess. I had shown him before how to clean them up properly but he was going to do it his own way. Instead of saying anything, I just decided to sit back and watch the drama unfold. Every piece fell on the floor and he looked at me with those eyes that were admitting he did it the wrong way.
My first instinct was to say, “I told you so.” That is always my first thoughts when my kids make mistakes. It seems like as a parent you just don’t understand why they couldn’t listen to you in the first place. However, this time I stayed calm and silent and helped him pick up the pieces. I knew he already realized he made a mistake.
I had a revelation about this little incident when it comes to our own mistakes in life. Do you ever wonder why God doesn’t intervene in some of our dramas? Perhaps it’s because He knows that as painful as it is to watch us go through our mistakes, it will teach us a valuable lesson. I could have easily stopped my son before the mess happened but I knew he would learn a more important lesson if I didn’t. How many times does God have to watch us go through our mistakes, maybe even over and over again, before we learn our lesson?
It is hard to maneuver in the parenting world. What to say to our children and when to say it. Just when you think you have it all figured out you realize you have more learning to do when it comes to teaching your children how to learn from their mistakes. The hardest part is to know when to intervene and when to step back and let them learn their life lessons.
I am thankful that I serve a God who doesn’t always intervene when I want him to. He loves me enough to sit back and watch my drama unfold so that I will learn a valuable lesson. He doesn’t tell me, “I told you so.” He just gently reminds me that He is always there even in His silence. It’s not easy to go through these mistakes in life but He is always there to help me pick up the pieces and clean up my mess.