#SquadGoals and Raising Daughters in a Nasty Woman’s World

March 7, 2017 — 18 Comments


I still can’t get those images out of my head. Women were marching on Washington clad in vagina suits and pink pussy hats. Just writing that sentence irks me. Am I really raising my daughters in this rude society of women?

The words of Ashley Judd’s speech at the women’s march on January 21, 2017, still have me shaking my head in disbelief. She recited a poem from a nineteen-year-old expressing outrage about our current president. The poem railed against Trump’s past vulgar remarks, ironically, with equal poetic vulgarity. It ended like this, “Our p__sies are for our pleasure. They are birthing new generations of filthy, vulgar, nasty, proud, Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Sikh, you name it for new generations of nasty women.”

Me: No, thank you!

Modern-day feminism has resorted to crassness instead of respectfulness. Women who call out injustices, inequalities and a man’s vulgar remarks with equal vulgarity…well, I guess feminism has risen to the occasion.

Today’s women’s movement uses celebrity platforms of women who think they speak for all of us. Their political and social opinions wrapped in hatred, anger, and crying out for justice that looks more like self-centered relativism. It’s not the generation of women I want to raise my daughters in. I am not nasty, and I refuse to raise a generation of vulgar females because it is not who God created women to be.

I recently did a study on the book of Ruth amidst all of the recent news on women’s speeches and marches. Now juxtapose this recent news with Ruth’s story, and you might be able to find the humor in it with me. Modern-day women who are screaming about their inequalities and then there’s Ruth; who loses her husband and her only means of income in a culture that does not treat women with equal footing as men.

Yes, yes, it was a different time and place in history, but you have to look at this woman and realize there is a reason her story is set aside as a complete book of the Bible. She is the exact opposite of the characteristics that define modern-day feminism. She was humble, selfless, giving, honest, hard-working, and defined love as serving others over her needs. You don’t find Ruth on a platform screaming about her “rights” that have not been afforded to her. Instead, she’s picking up scraps of grain behind harvesters so that she and her mother-in-law would have food to eat.

If you have never read the book of Ruth, I won’t give the story away. You have to read it to understand that charity defined her life and eventually, it was her selflessness that redeemed her widow’s story. A redemption story that ultimately would become a divine legacy.

The story of Ruth is really about what it means to be a generation of women who follow Christ. It celebrates womanhood amidst the struggles of life and real injustice. There are no words of self-empowerment, filth, vulgarity, or pride. Ruth is the very definition of what I want to teach my daughters to be in this nasty woman’s world.

Women who use their talents and strengths to serve others.

Women who find worth and value in their relationship with Christ.

Women who see humility as a strength and not a weakness.

Women who value their sex with virtue and respect.

Women who celebrate life and the God-given miracle of carrying a child in her womb or in her adoptive arms.

Women who celebrate their differences with men and find equality in those differences.

Women who don’t strive for perfection but emulate grace through all the struggles and imperfections of life.

I know that raising my daughters in the philosophy of Christianity over modern-day feminism is not popular. It’s turning away from all things progressive and marching against a tide of women who will look down on them and probably ridicule them. I don’t care! We will not be judged or known by how loud we scream and our “performance” in this secular world. Instead, like Ruth, if we follow the call of Christ in our lives, we will be known for our charity and humility.

I have this t-shirt that says, “Ruth. Mary. Sarah. Esther. #Squad Goals.” It’s a reminder of the women I want to emulate in my life. Biblical representations of women who followed Christ in a culture that often rejected the things of God. I am nowhere near imitating the selfless characteristics of Ruth. She’s a squad goal, but she’s also my hopes and dreams for a future generation of women, especially the young women I am raising.

I’ll keep wearing my biblical #squad goals t-shirt against the tide of pink p__sy hats. It might not be popular, but I’d much rather carry the title of a follower of Christ than a feminist.

18 responses to #SquadGoals and Raising Daughters in a Nasty Woman’s World


    Oh my gosh, I don’t usually respond to blogs, etc. But as a mom of a 2 year-old little lady, I just have to say, “yes, yes, and YES!” thank you for standing up against the tide and speaking about true God honoring femininity.


    Good read. My daugher is an adult and has liberal friends who have influenced her. She marched in the awful march. I have been praying for her and her husband. She has even become at odds with me -my beleifs and it’s been difficult. My heart breaks for her and my 2 grandchildren. Ladies raise them yp in Christ. Watch who their friends are and who will influence them. It makes a difference.

    Martha Hidalgo March 8, 2017 at 2:47 pm

    Pray God will richly bless you – thank you for speaking up for what I believe are a majority of women (just silent on this topic) it takes more courage to walk in truth and raise your daughters as followers of Jesus Christ but it is the greatest gift you can bless them with.

    Christine Brown March 8, 2017 at 4:55 pm

    Also, where would I find one of those awesome Tshirts?


      Hi Christine. I purchased it from crazycoolthreads.com I didn’t give them photo credit for this post but the t-shirt is awesome and very comfortable.

    Jeffrey Harris March 9, 2017 at 8:16 am

    I’m thinking of buying one of those t-shirts myself. Great post.


    Thank you, thank you, thank you for being an example of standing for what is right in a world that is not!!! I am responsible for 5 teenage daughters and it is a RELENTLESS battle! I am thankful for you and your words!!!!!


    Thank you for your post. Ruth’s is one of my favorite stories and someone I strive to emulate. Thank you for giving voice to the gentle spirit that has been so lacking in my current events.


    As a pastor with my first child being a daughter, I am praying that my daughter sees God’s love and truth rather than the lies of secular feminism. God made her beautifully and powerfully.

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